Out of Solitude: Three Meditations on the Christian Life

Nouwen, Henri

Ave Maria, 1974

p. 129

This excerpt is quoted in Seeds of Hope: An Henri Nouwen Reader, ed. Robert Durback (Bantam, 1989), p. 129: “When we ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand.  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not-knowing, not-curing, not-healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares. . . .”