The Four Loves

Lewis, C. S.

Fontana, 1963

pp. 44 - 45

Lewis speaks of the difference between “intimate and formal courtesy.  Precisely what suits the one may be a breach of the other.  To be free and easy when you are presented to some eminent stranger is bad manners; to practice formal and ceremonial courtesies at home (‘public faces in private places’) is—and is always intended to be—bad manners.”