Love Within Limits: A Realist’s View of 1 Corinthians 13
Smedes, Lewis B.
“What all suffering really comes down to is the experience of anything we want very much not to experience. The key here is the phrase ‘very much.’ To qualify as sufferers, we must want to be rid of something with such passion that it hurts. Suffering is having to endure what we very much want not to endure.”