The Four Loves
Lewis, C. S.
Lewis distinguishes what he calls “Gift-love” from what he calls “Need-love.” Gift-love is the kind of love which a dying parent shows by making provision for children—a kind of provision the parent will not share or even see in action. Need-love, by contrast, is “that which send a lonely or frightened child to its mother’s arms.” This is the same distinction as Anders Nuygren’s in his Agape and Eros: here agape is Greek for Gift-love and eros is Greek for Need-love. (While celebrating agape Nuygren almost entirely disparages eros.) Lewis argues for the legitimacy, normality of Need-love.